Each of us knows that a marriage is not created by a law or a ceremony; rather it occurs in the hearts of two human beings. It grows out of loving, caring and sharing ourselves with another.
This ceremony is not magic, it will not create a relationship that does not already exist and has not already been celebrated in all the commitments gay lovers have made to each other, both large and small, in the days since they first met and recognized their connection to one another.
So, in witnessing this ceremony we are observing only an outward sign of an inward union that already exists between them. This ceremony is a symbol of how far they have come together and a symbol of the promise that they will make to each other to continue to live their lives together and to love each other solely and above all others.
Eventually, same sex couples will be granted their legal right to an official marriage certificate. Changes have and continue to make headlines around the world, as close as New Zealand, but until that time a commitment ceremony can be just as exquisite.
Commitment ceremonies are not only designed for our gay society but is available to those who are already married in the eyes of the law and would like to renew their vows for instance. I am available for a discussion anytime.
Renewing wedding vows is all about wanting to recapture and celebrate your wedding day or of a very special anniversary or you may want to re-enact your wedding day in front of family and friends (and children) who were no there when you first tied the knot.
Whatever the reason, this ceremony will be magical. It will create a relationship that has grown out of a long and caring life together, whether it has been many years or only one. It will create a relationship that already exists and has already been celebrated in all the commitments you have made to each other, both large and small, in the days since you first met and recognized your connection to one another. So this ceremony has become symbolic of how far you have come together and of the promise that you will make again to each other to continue to live your lives together. The happily ever after story!